My 5 Biggest Struggles with my Toddler


Who could ever get frustrated with that face, right? That’s part of the problem, this child knows she’s adorable and uses it to her advantage. I think she has manipulated us from the moment she popped out!

While I love being her mother and wouldn’t trade this child for the world; there are some challenges that we face frequently. I think she saves up the majority of her stubbornness for me and me alone. Here are the top 5 battles we are constantly dealing with.

1) Cutting Fingernails

Let me just say that if I get 7 out of 10 fingernails or toenails, I consider that success. She fights me and wiggles around so that I can’t touch her fingers or toes without fearing that I will cut her (in case you’re wondering, I have). Today we had one of our battles. I was not successful. I cut 2 nails. 2! Not for lack of trying. She is strong. I think my not quite 2-year-old is taking steroids behind my back. Clearly, the only explanation.

2) Washing Hair

  This little girl loves water, she loves it! She begs to go take a shower and strips down anytime she hears the water running. Pools, baths, dog or cat water dishes; she doesn’t discriminate she loves them all. She will happily splash in the shower right until the second I put shampoo in her hair. She screams bloody murder. I’m worried that our neighbors think I’m actually trying to kill her. We have this fight almost daily. You would think that she would remember that every time we shower I have to clean her. Nope. Doesn’t seem to ring a bell for her. Since she showers with me, I’m the bad guy. Daddy is the dashing prince who has come to save her from her mean mommy that doesn’t want a child that smells like a foot.

3) Potty Training

I know she is still a bit young for potty training. She has her little training potty that she loves to play with. Play with. Nothing else. She also loves to sit on the real potty. She will fake using it, there’s a lot of grunting. She seems to enjoy trying the potty after she goes in her diaper, or on the floor. Lately, a lot of floor. Today has been a struggle with all of the issues listed. Today she pooped in her trash can. She brought it to me and said “icky.” I would agree, it was pretty icky. I called my mom and she just laughed. I called my husband and he laughed as well. There was no laughing coming from me. There is awareness there, I think it’s simply she isn’t interested in being potty trained. Ugh……

4) Keeping Clothes/Diapers on

I won’t post any naked photos of my child online. Even if she has the cutest buns. For what I feel are obvious reasons, I don’t want to post anything that could get into the wrong hands, or shame my child in the future. This kind of goes along with #3. I wouldn’t mind if she was naked nearly as much, if she was potty trained. This girl just loves to strip down and run around. Unfortunately, this has led to several accidents on the carpet. I’m fairly certain she pooped in her room today but I can’t seem to find it. I feel like I searched her room up and down, no sign of the culprit.

5) Naps/Bedtime

M has always been a terrible napper. She doesn’t want to miss a thing. Ever. Even when she is beyond exhausted. Apparently because she seems to hate me, we had a struggle with both her nap and bedtime tonight. She will scream and fight sleep, sometimes making herself throw up from crying so hard. We put a baby gate up at night-time, since she wanders out of her bed. She does sleep through the night, which I believe we deserve at least that. Sometimes getting her down for a nap or bedtime can take 2-3 hours, no matter what we do. She has been falling asleep at her gate more frequently. Right now she is still working on getting to sleep by the gate at her door. My husband will move her back to her bed once she’s in a deep sleep.

So sweet I almost want to bring her to my bed. Almost.

So sweet I almost want to bring her to my bed. Almost.

I’m sure I will get to deal with the same stuff tomorrow, and the next day, and the next; until I think my head will explode. I love this child so much though. As frustrating and disgusting as it is to be a mom at times, she is by far my greatest accomplishment. She is my tiny best friend. One day she won’t need me. One day she will be all grown up and I will long for the days of her struggling to nap next to me. It’s unbelievable to me how motherhood can be so challenging, heartbreaking, and heartwarming all at the same time. Now some time to myself to regroup until the fun begins again when she wakes up. I really hope it’s after 8am!

2 responses to “My 5 Biggest Struggles with my Toddler

  1. My son is 7 and he still doesn’t like his fingernails or toenails cut. It never went away.