(PC: The Berry)
I do love all of those things. I love food. I love cats. I LOVE cats. I love my friends.
I’m thankful for having my BFF of 14 plus years living 2 minutes away from me (in traffic). We have known each other since we were 14 or 15 and met at camp. Then we went to rival high schools and shared mutual friends. We were roommates our freshman year of college. She’s one of those friends that you can pick up right where you left off, even after not speaking or seeing each other for 6 months. Well, 5 years ago we reconnected after a few months of not speaking. Randomly, we both live in the same neighborhood. Fate. Destiny. Whatever; it makes me beyond thrilled to have a friend who is more like a sister this close to me. Our relationship is just easy. She gets me. I get her. There’s no pressure. She’s been there for me in my darkest times and is a HUGE part of pulling me out of some of my deepest depressions. She’s the kind of friend that I don’t think many people are lucky enough to find in their lifetime. And I found her! Female soulmate! She also loves cats just as much as I do!
While she got her cattoo with another one of her best friends, we both ended up with cat tattoos on our left forearms. That’s pretty stellar. Also, she looks like Gwen Stefani with dark hair, so that’s pretty cool. She’s outgoing to my shy. She makes me feel strong and helps me get out of my comfort zone without being pushy. Having the quality of friendship that we have is the most amazing feeling in the world.
I also have other very close and amazing girlfriends. So I’m thankful for my female friendships. I didn’t always appreciate them. There is all this pressure to compete with other women. We are conditioned to think that everyone is our competition. I don’t think I started fully appreciating how wonderful it is to have quality women in my life until I became a mother. They fill parts of me the way a man never could. I’d be lost without my girlfriends. I have some that I’ve known since middle school and we get together for birthdays and Christmas.
I have one of my best friends that I met in an Addictions class. That also felt like destiny. Girl gets me. We can say morbid things and just laugh. We can call each other on our BS and I don’t usually get mad. She spends the night at my house sometimes, so has seen me at my worst and still loves me. She deserves an award for that. My daughter loves her and she loves my kiddo right back. She is thoughtful and is always there for any of her friends, taking care of us. She lets me be moody and I let her be moody, but we also can tell each other when we are being awful. Every girl needs a friendship in their lives where they can call you on your stuff.
These are the kind of friends I have. These make the best kind of friends!
I also have one of my dearest friends at my current job. She’s so classy and reserved compared to my nonexistent filter. She has amazing insight and is so thoughtful with everything she says. I admire that. I love that we aren’t just co-workers, but friends. When you love the people you work with, it makes the job that much better. Even on the days I don’t want to go to work, knowing that I have one of my favorite people there makes it worth going in. It makes a difficult job do-able when someone gets it. And she’s safe. Easy to talk to, to confide in, supportive. She’s one of those types of friends that makes you want to be the best version of yourself. She’s another rare find.
Yes, today I am beyond thankful for my female friends in my life. I may not always say it, but I treasure each and every one of you. They each fill a piece of my life that would be missing without them. Having strong girlfriends make marriage, and motherhood more fulfilling. I didn’t ever think I would be so grateful for girls in my life, which is funny since now I don’t know how I would live without them. I hope everyone gets to have at least one of the types of girlfriends that I have. I may not have a lot of friends, but I have the best of them.
(PC: The Chive)